Making a big change – why it often doesn’t stick…

Change is not easy…..

Have you ever made a New Year’s Resolution and a couple of weeks into January or sometimes only a few days in, something happens, it all becomes too hard and before you know it, you’re back to your old ways of doing & being?

What most of us tend to do is have moments of inspiration (or sometimes desperation) and make sudden rash decisions to change something, then jump right in and decide, “I’ll start on Monday!”

Reasons it doesn’t work:

A couple of reasons this doesn’t work is due to complete lack of preparation and total lack of consideration of the consequences, practicalities and ramifications of our decision.

When I decided to start the Auto-Immune Protocol (AIP) elimination eating plan on January 1st this year, it was not your typical New Year Resolution. I had already spent the previous 2 months prepping for, and pondering, the change. It’s quite an extreme program as there are many, many, everyday foods that are no longer allowed during the elimination phase.

What to do instead:

When deciding to transform one area of our life, what we should focus on are the following:

  1. Adequate preparation e.g. my AIP – I researched recipes, stocked my fridge with food I was allowed and removed the food I cannot have.


  1. Adequate thought – think about why you want to do this, what you are going to gain from it, what rewards will you get, how will your life be improved?


  1. You also need different attitudes and helpful thought processes to get you through the tough times and challenges that are guaranteed to occur!

The last thing you want to happen is have your thought processes sound like this “this is so unfair, why me? Nobody else has to suffer like this, why can’t I be like them,” and on and on it goes.

This is your lazy brain resisting the fact that it has to expend more energy in order to make this change. It is trying to get you to stay the same, because that is the path of least resistance and our brains prefer that because our subconscious or ‘auto-pilot’ can then take over.


If you can relate to all this, I invite you take a moment to complete the following short activity:

  1. Think of a change you have tried to make recently – it could even be your NY Resolution for 2018
  2. Write down the steps you took to prepare for the change (if any)
  3. Write down roughly how long you spent thinking about it prior to making the change
  4. Did you actively consider new ways of thinking to help you through?

If you realised that your methods of managing changes in your life are not the most helpful, why not join my free Facebook group, Energised Women? The group is filled with busy women who want to find more ‘me-time’ in their lives in order to be better mothers, friends, sisters, daughters and partners. We’d love to have you join us 🙂

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