Subconscious – does it sometimes feel like it’s working against you?
How many of you have ever tried to make a change, create a new habit, or break an old one and found it really, really hard?
So what is it that you’re doing that isn’t working? First, you probably just wake up one day and decide that you need to change. You might decide that you want to quit smoking, drink less, eat healthy etc. Often it’s a split second decision and before we know it, we’ve started without giving it much further thought because it seemed like a good idea at the time and often it’s something we feel we should do!
Secondly, most of us don’t have any sort of plan in place to manage this change. We just decide to do it, and then expect it to happen overnight.
There are a couple of reasons why this probably isn’t working for you. It’s all to do with how our brain functions.
Subconscious stories: We all have stories, beliefs, attitudes or ‘frames’ as I like to call them that are running us in the background. Some of these frames might have been there for years! If we attempt to replace these stories with a new one, it’s not an overnight shift because of the strength of the existing stories.
Lazy brain: I have mentioned numerous times that the human brain is lazy. This is a survival mechanism because our brains require so much energy to function. They have become masters at conserving energy wherever and whenever possible. Anything new or different to our usual patterns of behaviour requires extra energy that our brain doesn’t like, so it resists us all the way.
Knowing all of this, what can we do to help ensure success?
Smash limiting beliefs: This involves identifying what they are and figuratively smashing them, although I have found adding some form of physical act to the activity will help give it more strength and staying power.
Affirmations: Repeating affirmations daily, or even throughout the day, can help write new ‘frames’ to our subconscious.
Frame changing activity: This involves proactively creating/writing a new frame and then ensuring that it becomes the dominant story used by your subconscious.
Mini-challenge for those who want to jump right in:
Step 1: Think of a change you want to make e.g. quit smoking, drink less alcohol, eat healthy, exercise more.
Step 2: Identify any beliefs/attitudes/stories or frames that might be on your subconscious holding you back or stopping you from changing.
Step 3: Create a new helpful frame.
This has been a very brief overview of how our subconscious often holds us back, preventing us from achieving more and changing for the better. We continue this discussion and others in my FREE Private Facebook group, Energised Women.
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